How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs So You Can Move Forward
INSIDE: Everyone has some limiting beliefs. These persistent negative thoughts not only weigh heavily on our minds, but also shape our reality and future experiences. Let's discover how to overcome limiting beliefs and start living your best life now…
Most of our perceived limitations are learned. According to an article published by The Open University, most of our limiting beliefs are a result of conditioning and societal influences. The truth is, we are much more capable, much more lovable, and have much greater potential than we think we do.
Negative beliefs are just that - beliefs - and they can be changed. These perceived self-imposed limitations are just a reflection of past experiences and not the reality of who we can be and what we can achieve.
Let’s learn more about what these restrictive thoughts are and what you can do to overcome limiting beliefs…
What Are Limiting Beliefs?
Limiting beliefs are beliefs that hold us back from living our best lives. They are negative paradigms that were instilled in our conscious and subconscious mind and continue to lower our vibration. They pose a blockage to receiving all the good that we deserve.
Here are some common examples of limiting beliefs:
- I am not good enough.
- I am not lovable. No one will ever love me.
- I will never find my soul tribe.
- The life of my dreams is out of my limits.
- I am not competent enough. I never get things right.
- I don’t have any talents or skills.
- There is no point in trying because failure is guaranteed.
- I always ruin everything.
- I don't have the money.
Let’s explore the answer to "what are limiting beliefs" and learn about their roots in more depth…
They Are False Beliefs
Limiting beliefs are true in the sense that we feel them and believe them intensely. They are an existing part of our programming, and they are valid. However, although everyone has had these beliefs, they are not true. As a matter of fact, they go against our true nature, which is expansive, joyous, and happy to experience life.
Limiting beliefs are false beliefs we have developed over time in order to protect ourselves from uncertainty.
When we continuously receive negative input, negativity can become the only thing we know. As a result, we start to interpret them as the only truth. So, to overcome limiting beliefs, it is essential to first recognize that they are not proof of our value and potential.
We are all limitless spiritual beings and we all have the right to be loved, successful, and authentic. Limiting beliefs make it difficult to grasp these truths.
They Are a Result of Negative Conditioning
It is very common to find that negative beliefs are a result of our upbringing. Most of our limiting beliefs were instilled in our subconscious minds even before we could comprehend why.
When we grow up in a limiting environment and a stifling society, it becomes easy to take others’ negative beliefs as our own. Even happy childhoods lead to limiting beliefs.
Growing up, everyone is told what they can or can’t do and what they are capable or incapable of. Limiting beliefs develop when more focus is put on the negatives.
Most parents do the best they can, but they all have limiting beliefs themselves. And as society puts pressure on all aspects of our existence, limiting beliefs become a common response.
They Stem From Past Pain & Negative Experiences
Limiting beliefs are a result of a negative experiences or layers of emotional trauma. As social beings, we are entwined with the energy of others. When messages coming from the environment are negative and our past is full of painful memories, it becomes almost natural to identify with those negative experiences.
To overcome limiting beliefs, we need to recognize that they emerge from past experiences and that they don’t have to determine our future.
- Rejection can make us accept the false belief that we are unworthy.
- Failure can make us believe that we aren’t capable or talented enough.
- Fears and traumas can make us believe that stepping outside of our comfort zone is dangerous.
- Not having a loving bond with a parent or a partner can make us believe we are unloveable.
- Negative social experiences, especially when repeated, can make us believe that we don’t belong and that no one will accept us.
Negative experiences make us subconsciously identify with those experiences. So, if we have experienced failure, we identify ourselves as a failure.
The more we care about something, the more we are likely to identify with the outcome. Although this is just a reflection of a singular event, our brains find it easier to cope with the negative outcome by aligning our thoughts and beliefs with it.
They Are a Subconscious Coping Mechanism
Negative experiences are a shock to our system. They shake us to the core in a way that our conscious mind can’t instantly rationalize. Instead, we subconsciously use it to stay in a safe zone and unintentionally block ourselves from moving forward and experiencing life.
When our light gets dimmed and we accept our wrongs and failures as truths, we start building a system of limiting beliefs. Then, those beliefs drive automatic negative responses every time we are faced with a challenge.
They Make Us Diminish Our Light
Thoughts are more powerful than we think, which is why it is so important to overcome limiting beliefs. When we think negatively about ourselves, the same will be reflected back to us.
For instance, if we believe we are not lovable and that we can’t attract a loving partner, we will subconsciously become blind to seeing potential good partners. Limiting beliefs gear our thought process towards seeking safety, and in this case, safety is found in believing that we are unloveable, so why bother trying.
The more we believe our false beliefs, the more we are likely to experience something similar that confirms those false constructs we have built in our heads.
How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs
Overcoming limiting beliefs isn’t easy, but it is possible. The only resources you need are some goodwill and patience. To help you embark on that journey, we have prepared some simple, yet powerful techniques you can try now.
Embrace Your Shadow
Our shadow self is uncomfortable to face, but it is powerful. If you learn how to accept it and become aware of it, you will have more power over yourself than your environment or your negative thoughts.
Limiting beliefs are integrated into the shadow, so the more aware you are of the root cause of these beliefs, the less power they will have over you.
Embracing your shadow self is crucial to building a healthy relationship with yourself. This means embracing all the things you deem unacceptable, challenging your old beliefs, and expressing your true self.
Give yourself permission to challenge past beliefs. Re-evaluate what is hidden within. What parts of you do you deem unacceptable and why? The more you come to terms with the aspects of yourself that you reject, the more confident you will be in changing the old paradigms that hold you back.
Contemplate what triggers negative self-talk to help you overcome limiting beliefs. Take one step at a time; facing your shadow self isn’t an overnight process. It takes time to integrate what you've kept hidden for so long.
Practicing self-kindness every time you fail is a form of self-love. Mistakes and failures are an integral part of life; they are not a confirmation of your limiting beliefs. Instead of judging yourself, show yourself compassion and give yourself the love and understanding you need.
Every time you notice that you are being hard on yourself remember that you are only picking an old wound. Instead, consciously choose to talk to yourself as you would to someone you love, and remind yourself that it is alright to be imperfect.
Use Crystals to Support Your Inner Work
Here are some of the best crystals to support your inner work, helping you discover how to overcome limiting beliefs...
Black Obsidian is a powerful crystal for self-reflection and mirror work. It can help you dive deep into your subconscious, discover limitations, and then slowly release them.
Black Onyx supports shadow work, empowers us, and creates space for personal metamorphosis. It can help us banish negative thoughts, release past pains, and bravely face our demons.
Hematite aims to eliminate negativity from our aura and personal space. It encourages us to face the shadow and acknowledge and integrate it. Hematite can also shed light on the source of our limiting beliefs and fears, helping us to confidently rise above them.
Selenite is a cleansing crystal that helps absorb negativity that is released during inner work. It is a source of light and hope and can offer powerful assistance when we are facing the darkness of our shadow.
Black Tourmaline helps us face our triggers and understand the source of our suffering so that we can release it all. It encourages soul searching and offers protection when we feel most vulnerable.
Lapis Lazuli brings us closer to enlightenment and it can help us rise above our limitations. It promotes deep healing, helping us elevate spiritually, mentally, and emotionally.
Did you know that food you eat can help you overcome limiting beliefs? It is difficult to transform ourselves when we are muddying up our bodies and minds with unhealthy food. The cleaner our diets is, the lighter we feel.
Choosing food that is good for us not only ensures that we get a daily dose of essential nutrients but also improves overall vitality and promotes wellness.
Choose as many whole foods as you can, and avoid processed foods with added sugars. Natural, organic foods raise our frequency and eliminate toxic energy from our system, cleansing our whole being from what doesn't serve our highest good - be it free radicals or negative thoughts.
Feed Your Subconscious Positive Thoughts & Feelings
Limiting thoughts grow when we focus on the negatives that affirm what we already believe. To change that, it is essential to start bringing more positivity into your daily routine. Shifting thought patterns from negative to positive is easier when you are connecting with positive content on a daily basis.
- Unfollow pages that trigger you and bring out the worst in you.
- Subscribe to good news channels and blogs like our Healing Stones Blog.
- Read inspirational books and watch movies that make you laugh.
- Connect with pets or children.
- Choose companies to do business with wisely.
- Hang out with people who add to your cup, not take from it.
- Choose people who uplift you and who inspire you to be a better person.
Sources of positivity can be found everywhere. Your task is to find them and connect with them. Practice daily affirmations to start training yourself to recognize how immensely lovable, capable, and awesome you are.
The more you're surrounded by positivity, the easier it becomes to outgrow your outdated limiting beliefs.
Challenge Your Perspective
Our lives are determined by our perspective. Our perception of reality directly dictates how we see the world around us. When we change our perspective, everything shifts. Challenge yourself to choose empowering beliefs and train yourself to practice positive self-talks whenever you can.
To overcome limiting beliefs, it is important to identify and learn to recognize when and why they pop up in your mind. Each time you notice yourself resorting to negative self-talk and pessimism, acknowledge the thoughts running through your head. Then, use the power of your conscious mind to challenge those beliefs.
Start looking at things from different angles and start counteracting your old beliefs, with new, healthier ones.
For instance, if your limiting belief is that you will never be successful, you can start to replace it with a belief that you are trying your best in given circumstances. You have the power to choose to be your own cheerleader and you can reframe your thoughts to serve you, instead of working against you.
Meditation brings clarity and awakens us to important truths. Practicing meditation even a few minutes a day activates a positive change in consciousness. It brings inner peace and helps us realize negative thought patterns about who we are.
Meditation is a chance to connect with your Higher Self and Universal Intelligence. It's a chance to gain a clear perspective about your life and the roots of your limiting beliefs. By practicing it, you give yourself a much-needed chance to detach from your thoughts and create space for new, healthier ways of thinking to emerge.
There are no greater limitations to be overcome than those we create ourselves. By choosing to challenge our negative beliefs, we embrace self-love and we chose to consciously create a life that we desire. We become empowered and give ourselves the permission to live confidently and authentically.